why do we speak too many if and lesser when

We live in a world where people keep using the word if. “If I can, if I am, if I become, if I do, if have”. Just too many ifs. What happened to “when”? “When I do, when I become, when I get”. I hope you understand the importance of words. Because Whatever you say, has a strong influence on you, your actions and ability. No matter how little they are, your words make or mare you.
Have you had about an army that went to war? They crossed a bridge on their way to the battle field. The commandant burnt down the bridge after crossing, making the only route home through the enemy territory. If you were a soldier in that army, what will your thoughts be? You just have to win this war, else you die. That’s what “when” does for you. It burns the bridge behind you. “If” is that bridge, burn it. What are you thinking about, of course they won the war. “When” energises you.

"when" pushes you to action

Guess what? While I was writing, a friend, Dupe stepped in. Before she left, she made a statement, “if I have money I will ….”. She came back in and rephrased, “when I have money I will …”. I had to show her my screen, hope this post puts a smile on your face like it did her. We will compare the words “if” and “when” based on

Desire to achieve

When you use the word “if”, you don’t create a strong desire to achieve your spoken word. “If” is a conditional statement, you create an option to achieving what you spoken word. And unknowingly, your desire to achieve becomes so small.
But using the word “when”, you create a very strong desire to achieve whatever comes out of your mind. There is just one out come you give yourself when you use “when”.  You tell yourself that your words are important, hence has to be achieved.


“If” creates no commitment whatsoever to what you are saying. You just make the statement and it means nothing. Your word doesn’t strike you, so little or no commitment is created to it. But the word “when” creates a sense of commitment between you and your word.   “When I become successful” just has a way of committing you to your word. Making you work towards being successful.


“If I buy a house” means you can either buy a house or not buy. It give you options. You become lazy towards achieving when you have this kind of options. You create a safe house to run to if you don’t achieve.
“When I buy a house” just means I either buy a house or I buy a house. There is no hiding place, buying a house is the only option. You just give yourself that energy to work.

Vision and dream

“If” sets up a dream. It is good to dream, I dream a lot. But a dream doesn’t have a very strong hold on you. You leave in a world of fantasy with too many “ifs” in your life. Too much dreaming without action will only hurt you, pause your growth.
But putting actions towards you dream turns it into a vision. “When’s” give you a stronger attachment to your words, giving you momentum to turn your dreams into actions.
Let’s try an exercise. You will start with a small target that have somehow eluded achievement.  Turn your target into achievement.
  • Write down that small target you want to turn into a reality.
  •  Write down why you want to achieve this target.
  • What impact will this achievement cause in your life?
  • Lastly, it’s time to implement the power of “when”. Write down your target in this pattern, “when” I achieve “your target” I will “the effect of your target”.
  • Repeat this written target to yourself whenever you can, every day for at least a week.
  • Repeat it to others if it’s not a sensitive target, you can start now by sharing it with us in the comment section.
  • Make relevant steps towards achievement.
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